3 ways to cultivate (non romantic) intimacy:
1. Eye Contact: do you ever notice how uncomfortable it can be if you or the other person is staring deeply into your eyes. It’s like they’re staring deep into your soul. Well, this is exactly what we want. We want to be fully seen and so do others. Notice when you’re in conversations if you tend to look away or if you’re too scared to stare directly into someone’s eyes. Challenge: stare into a complete strangers eyes. Passing on the street, in the grocery store, etc. If they look away, that’s ok, honor their process.
2. Share Vulnerably: this can be a challenging one for some of us. It’s easy to sit here and act like all is well and life is perfect, when the reality may be that we are going through a difficult moment. When it’s safe, share your truth with a peer. Share what you are currently going through. This helps to break down walls and become more relatable. Challenge: share an intimate situation with one of your peers.
3. Do something BIG or NEW with another: to share a new or big experience with another person creates immediate trust in one another. Some examples may be you and a friend host a dinner for your tribe, or go on a road trip to a new place with a friend, try out a new experience in your city with a friend like a painting class or pottery or ask a friend to go volunteer somewhere with you. Challenge: try one of the above examples or something similar this week.
Once we start to work with some of these intimacy tools, it will become second nature. In the beginning these may seem daunting or extremely uncomfortable, I promise it will get easier if you hold yourself accountable and stick with it.